tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-822807868347854914.post3631111131256493639..comments2023-05-08T01:22:15.727-07:00Comments on 'S Wonderful: What Am I Doing?: The Mental Mantra of the UnemployedMelissa Marishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15216312159880277204noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-822807868347854914.post-79565996771678965732011-11-30T11:33:37.971-08:002011-11-30T11:33:37.971-08:00You are all such sweet, amazing readers. Thank you...You are all such sweet, amazing readers. Thank you for your encouragement and all your kind words. It's really neat to know I have a support team at the ready whenever I need you all. :)Melissa Marishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15216312159880277204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-822807868347854914.post-2564639155544910402011-11-29T12:10:47.542-08:002011-11-29T12:10:47.542-08:00So, this post made me all teary eyed. That change ...So, this post made me all teary eyed. That change in attitude with the questions at the end? Spot on! But, you know what else? I think girls like us - the ones who were smart, independent and self-sufficient before we got married - we forget that our spouses are supposed to be there for us ... that's what they've signed up for ... good times AND bad. Sometimes it takes the BAD times to really comprehend what that means. <br /><br />For me, it was when Gavin was born early and spent 5 weeks in the NICU. Sweets and I were closer than ever during that time. He was my rock when I was an emotional wreck (at times, not the entire 5 weeks). <br /><br />And for you? I think you should remind yourself that if your money runs out, Mr W is there to help you. Maybe his salary won't cut it for both of you forever (or maybe it could). But, my guess is the two of you could make do if you had to. And while it's hard to admit you might need help like that, just remind yourself that you'd do it in a heartbeat for him ... so, you have to let him do it for you.Nilsa @ SoMi Speakshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08474642034399063234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-822807868347854914.post-89562466802240251882011-11-29T11:35:01.582-08:002011-11-29T11:35:01.582-08:00It is unsettling having the one thing we crave whe...It is unsettling having the one thing we crave when we were working at corporate gigs: Time. I find that as long as I write SOMETHING, ANYTHING in the day, I feel accomplished. And this helps keep the anxiety at bay. <br /><br />Though I started showering and putting makeup on immediately after my morning coffee. That helps with the routine.Janice MacLeodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01735829220462813302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-822807868347854914.post-29006671785109268882011-11-29T00:01:48.928-08:002011-11-29T00:01:48.928-08:00I'm with Mr. W. You certainly sound like you&#...I'm with Mr. W. You certainly sound like you're doing a ton of stuff, lady! I wrote not a thing and filled no etsy orders while I was unemployed! I actually regret not spending more time just visiting my sister and brother who live up north and I rarely see.<br /><br />You definitely brought back memories of when I was in your shoes...especially the thoughts about "What if I never get a job?" Everyone said to me, of course you will and I will say the same to you. OF COURSE YOU WILL! <br /><br />You're going to look back at this time and think, why did I stress so much and not enjoy the freedom a bit more. It's hard to see now but you will only grow from this hiatus, I promise.Anitanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-822807868347854914.post-5679743300210456072011-11-28T21:05:11.514-08:002011-11-28T21:05:11.514-08:00When I had my 3 months jobless, I'm pretty sur...When I had my 3 months jobless, I'm pretty sure I completely lost track of time. I was spending money so quickly somehow, but I had no money coming in. I was going insane sitting around, so I threw myself into completely re-painting my childhood bedroom (hey, at least you're not living w/ your parents), watching movies, breathing and looking for a job. The days draaaagged. It's insane how you can have so much time but yet get nothing done. <br /><br />I can say with ease that you're going to be awesome no matter what you do, even if it's doing nothing. :)Jane Moneypennyhttp://varietyisthespice.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-822807868347854914.post-32029412117935039692011-11-28T20:54:46.789-08:002011-11-28T20:54:46.789-08:00OMG, you've do more unemployed than I do at wo...OMG, you've do more unemployed than I do at work all day! I guess it's that whole "the grass is greener on the other side, but it still has to get mowed." I imagine what I'd do with time. Hunker down and write that novel. Be the rock star wife. <br /><br />I admire your Etsy shop and am excited to see what your creative noggin comes up with next!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-822807868347854914.post-51257930103691950832011-11-28T17:48:15.096-08:002011-11-28T17:48:15.096-08:00It seems in today's world, "productivity&...It seems in today's world, "productivity" is a form of validation. You don't necessarily have to DO anything within the day to be considered productive or worthy. As an "older" woman, who has worked, raised children and often wondered what my purpose was and why on earth I was beating my head against the wall day after day, I finally have realized that many times our smallest deeds are the greatest. Treasure this time in your life and just like finding Mr. W., when you least expect it, something will come along!Life in Paradisenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-822807868347854914.post-30420525454083053542011-11-28T13:43:20.845-08:002011-11-28T13:43:20.845-08:00Do you think people ask that out of their own fear...Do you think people ask that out of their own fear of being unemployed? Like they imagine freaking out with no job and all that free time? Maybe? I mean when I am off for a day I can easily lose 3/4 of it to I don't know what. I'll think back on it and be like- I did a lot of little things and didn't get dressed in proper clothes. And then when you do get a job, you will wish you had enjoyed the free time more, right? You just can't win. So go easy on yourself.Sizzlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00182860438430294750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-822807868347854914.post-85253635286099980832011-11-28T13:06:05.756-08:002011-11-28T13:06:05.756-08:00Oh, you know I know this feeling. And although our...Oh, you know I know this feeling. And although our job situations changed for different reasons, there is still that waiting feeling, because until you get into the new normal it's hard to picture yourself making something happen. But you will.LesleyGhttp://www.justrunjustlivejustbe.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-822807868347854914.post-10532693600096436442011-11-28T12:53:07.207-08:002011-11-28T12:53:07.207-08:00I feel like I'm a pro at having time off. Eve...I feel like I'm a pro at having time off. Every year to year and a half I'm faced with this same scenario. I lose time and struggle to find time to do all the grand things I want to do when I'm not working. So I make a list of all those things, big and small, so that each day as I find time slipping away sometime between morning coffee and afternoon coffee, I have a reminder of what it is I want to do. <br />It seems to help give me the motivation to keep on track. You're doing more than you think, it just may not be as glamorous as a book signing deal... yet.Mr. W.noreply@blogger.com