tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-822807868347854914.post4745785364013398409..comments2023-05-08T01:22:15.727-07:00Comments on 'S Wonderful: A Holiday Lesson: Lose the ExpectationsMelissa Marishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15216312159880277204noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-822807868347854914.post-88821859912491153152012-01-12T16:34:00.599-08:002012-01-12T16:34:00.599-08:00I hope you didn't write this because my card d...I hope you didn't write this because my card didn't make it to you!! Still pissed at the mailman for that!! :)lauranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-822807868347854914.post-38590924323843866512011-12-28T08:36:52.863-08:002011-12-28T08:36:52.863-08:00Yet another reason to eschew facebook. Just sayin....Yet another reason to eschew facebook. Just sayin.<br /><br />Also...thank you for the bottle of wine! That was really thoughtful. I can't wait to try it.HunnerWoofhttp://www.hunnerwoof.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-822807868347854914.post-77570228412804124782011-12-27T20:16:36.115-08:002011-12-27T20:16:36.115-08:00I never notice my facebook friend list fluctuation...I never notice my facebook friend list fluctuations. in fact, I often feel relieved if someone I don't talk to often deletes me. some relationships are better closed and put away with my yearbooks.<br /><br />Still, I have a bit of a thin skin and keep score myself. But I'm not as generous with my time and energy as you are-I'm pretty self-absorbed. I mean, have you noticed this comment is really all about me?<br /><br />I (there's that me focus!) think that you have an admirable goal for 2012 and hope it brings you more happiness in your relationships!missmccrackenhttp://bloggart.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-822807868347854914.post-7168266992377269042011-12-27T12:24:44.535-08:002011-12-27T12:24:44.535-08:00Ahhh, that Mr W, he's a smart one, eh? I think...Ahhh, that Mr W, he's a smart one, eh? I think he's absolutely right. And I think I'd add something to the mix. Just because someone else does something negative to you doesn't mean you've lost control of the situation. You are still empowered to (a) ignore it, (b) address it, (c) store your feelings away for future use, etc. You can't control how others feel or what they do, but you can decide how to process their actions. (BTW, I adore your holiday card and have it up for show on our door!)Nilsa @ SoMi Speakshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08474642034399063234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-822807868347854914.post-54329632833771882192011-12-27T08:38:18.456-08:002011-12-27T08:38:18.456-08:00I hear you. I try to remind myself often that most...I hear you. I try to remind myself often that most of the time, we're a) all doing the best we can, and b) we truly cannot know the whole of what's going in in someone's life/mind/heart. I just have faith that doing what I can at the time is enough and not be attached to the benefit--- you know, the whole lighting another candle doesn't dim your light thing.LesleyGnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-822807868347854914.post-46879830728258401602011-12-26T17:47:34.983-08:002011-12-26T17:47:34.983-08:00No one likes a scorekeeper. You should always do t...No one likes a scorekeeper. You should always do things because you want to and it brings you some measure of joy or satisfaction to do it - especially when it comes to friends. It has less to do with small town upbringing than just the way life is. You lose a few and you pick up a few along the way. Sands shift, tides turn. None of it is personal. It just is what it is. However you should continue to keep commenting on blogs you read. Rumor has it there are people who appreciate that.Jeffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13307986487573583915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-822807868347854914.post-29949160781735714672011-12-26T15:12:32.388-08:002011-12-26T15:12:32.388-08:00I get my feelings hurt too. I realized I often out...I get my feelings hurt too. I realized I often out too much energy into relationships that aren't balanced and I've learned to pull back on that. It just hurts me to give & give and never feel it reciprocated. But doing nice things for someone shouldn't be about how it will come back to you. I def agree. Being kind or generous is good.Sizzlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00182860438430294750noreply@blogger.com